by Janet Ramirez
Many people who are in toxic relationships think people will change their ways if you just give it time, but others think differently and some might not think the same. This happens everywhere, but Alyssa, a San Jose resident, thinks that if you give people time to think, they will change into a better person.
Toxic relationships could be other than abusive. For example, it can be just not trusting each other, not communicating, or being controlling.
According to Elite Daily, young women between the ages 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence.
Alyssa started dating and everything was going great for a while. They would travel, go out with their friends, and just have a good time.
After 5 months of being together, things started going downhill. Alyssa noticed a couple red flags, but she didn't really think anything of it. Her significant other wouldn't communicate with her like they used to; they would just argue. It's pretty normal to argue with your partner at times, but they would argue all the time for every little thing.
She would always blame herself for everything that went wrong in the relationship even though it was his fault. He started being very controlling with everything she would do.
Alyssa said, “Even when I would go out with friends, he wouldn't trust me, he wouldn't want me to hang out with them, and when he would go out he would hate when I would ask him with who and where he was at.”
She was just not feeling it and she didn't like that there was no trust in the relationship, so she decided to end. He started to talk to her about it, but it was really complicated at first. He told her that he would change for the better and that it wouldn't happen again; everything was going to be good.
She told her family about the situation and they believed that he was still going to be toxic to her. One of her family members told her that if the relationship is going bad right now, what would make her think it's going to get any better.
They were right about it, but she ignored what her family would tell her and continued to be in that relationship, until she finally realized it was better for her to be without him.
In a school survey that I conducted, I asked, “When do you think a partner in a toxic relationship starts to change in a negative way?” The results were that 40 out of 50 people notice that most relationships start going downhill after half a year of being in a relationship.
Toxic relationships could be other than abusive. For example, it can be just not trusting each other, not communicating, or being controlling.
According to Elite Daily, young women between the ages 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence.
Alyssa started dating and everything was going great for a while. They would travel, go out with their friends, and just have a good time.
After 5 months of being together, things started going downhill. Alyssa noticed a couple red flags, but she didn't really think anything of it. Her significant other wouldn't communicate with her like they used to; they would just argue. It's pretty normal to argue with your partner at times, but they would argue all the time for every little thing.
She would always blame herself for everything that went wrong in the relationship even though it was his fault. He started being very controlling with everything she would do.
Alyssa said, “Even when I would go out with friends, he wouldn't trust me, he wouldn't want me to hang out with them, and when he would go out he would hate when I would ask him with who and where he was at.”
She was just not feeling it and she didn't like that there was no trust in the relationship, so she decided to end. He started to talk to her about it, but it was really complicated at first. He told her that he would change for the better and that it wouldn't happen again; everything was going to be good.
She told her family about the situation and they believed that he was still going to be toxic to her. One of her family members told her that if the relationship is going bad right now, what would make her think it's going to get any better.
They were right about it, but she ignored what her family would tell her and continued to be in that relationship, until she finally realized it was better for her to be without him.
In a school survey that I conducted, I asked, “When do you think a partner in a toxic relationship starts to change in a negative way?” The results were that 40 out of 50 people notice that most relationships start going downhill after half a year of being in a relationship.