By: Jen Sanchez
It all started back in December of 2018, my dad was talking about how he wanted to leave back to his hometown in Mexico, miles, and miles away from the family. He was tired of home due to the problems and everything that came with it.
Different situations were going on at home and he didn't know how to get out of them without being rude.
My brother has been there through my worst days and even my good days. We didn’t get along when we were younger because he thought my dad would give me everything to me and not him. He really didn’t accept me being with my dad a lot because he was my dad’s only kid before I was born. (He is 21 now and I’m 16)
He has been through a lot and I try to help him a lot because he has helped me a lot as well. I have helped him emotional in a way where I would always talk to him and try to solve the problem that he gets into. Not just his problems but situations where he felt like he didn’t have anyone there for him.
He was there for me emotionally and physically as well in the way where I felt really sad. He would help me get through it by talking to me and explaining the good about it.
My sisters are 8 and 4 years old, they are still very young, I mention them because when I was their age I went through all this separation, so now as they are growing they are going threw the kind of what I did, except our dad left for good.
Approximately 50 percent of American children will witness the breakup of a parent's marriage.
One of 10 children whose parents have divorced will also see 3 or more subsequent parental marriage breakups.
As you might expect, research has found that kids struggle the most during the first year or two after the divorce. Kids are likely to experience distress, anger, anxiety, and disbelief.
I was 7 when my parents got separated but I was able to comprehend why this happened.
At that time I didn’t get to see my dad as often as I wanted to, which made me hurt inside, however, no one knew this. As I got older I hated to be with my mom, I was 11 when I came to live in San Jose CA with her and my grandma--from my mom’s side.
So I went to school here for a while until I went back to Washington state when I was 13. I got to spend more time with my dad, once I left I felt a good relieve. My dad and I would always talk about life and I’d always want to go with him wherever he went, which was stores, friends, cousin’s house, etc.
I always wanted to have a big quinceanera, but I know we didn’t have the money for it. I told my dad if we could just have a get-together type of thing with the family. To me, as long as I was with my family that’s what truly mattered.
It would have been a good time, however,I told him I wanted a car instead of a birthday party.
He said, “We have to see because you have to get your license to be able to drive.” But then I was like, “Dad I don’t need that I want my car first, then I can get my license,” he responded back with, “No you are not getting a car till I see you have a license first,” I told him ok fine, since then I didn’t get my car.
He then surprised me when I turned 15, my family made a quince party for me with a DJ, they decorated everything blue and white. My dress was blue and simple because I didn't want anything big.
I was happy because I didn’t know anything until they took me to the place. All my family was already there, ready to scream “SURPRISE”. It’s a good memory I have with my dad to look back to, and I thanked him a lot because he knew I wanted something so he put in the effort to give me what he could.
This is the reason I appreciate him so much and I will always have him in mind. I know I don't mention my mom a lot and the reason why is because I and her have never bonded together.
For a lot of teens, it could be the same, maybe people don't bond with their dad as much as me, maybe they bond more with their mom, or even some of us don’t have both parents with us.
As January 2019 came he finally made his decision on leaving soon, we cried a lot. My sisters were really sad because we weren’t going to be able to see him no more until we had a chance in December. However, my sisters won’t be able to see him which makes me sadder because we won’t have a chance to be reunited once again.
As time went by he would tell us my grandpa and grandma were sick, so we felt really bad. They didn’t have anyone to watch over them because my aunt, which is my dad's sister, got married and moved from Mexico to Texas. They would always call us to see how we were doing.
My dad decided to leave and go to Mexico to take care of them. I have never met my family from Mexico, but this year will be my first time, and I'm excited to see them.
My dad made the official decision on March 5, 2019, he decided to leave for Mexico. We had to understand his point of view because it was for his own good to leave and watch over his parents just like he had watched over us.
But now I’ve been trying to get through all this, I call my dad every day to make sure they are doing well. We talk about how I’m doing in school and how I’m doing emotionally.
I have been doing my best in school, I keep up with my grades even though I have a lot going on in my mind. I try to maintain myself busy by doing other things, for example, I like to play volleyball or soccer during my free time.
Things like this help me in a way where I’m not just thinking about the situation. I think it's important to be doing things and being active as much as you can. Leave the bad vibes behind focus on yourself, after all at the end of the day you will appreciate what you do for yourself.
It all started back in December of 2018, my dad was talking about how he wanted to leave back to his hometown in Mexico, miles, and miles away from the family. He was tired of home due to the problems and everything that came with it.
Different situations were going on at home and he didn't know how to get out of them without being rude.
My brother has been there through my worst days and even my good days. We didn’t get along when we were younger because he thought my dad would give me everything to me and not him. He really didn’t accept me being with my dad a lot because he was my dad’s only kid before I was born. (He is 21 now and I’m 16)
He has been through a lot and I try to help him a lot because he has helped me a lot as well. I have helped him emotional in a way where I would always talk to him and try to solve the problem that he gets into. Not just his problems but situations where he felt like he didn’t have anyone there for him.
He was there for me emotionally and physically as well in the way where I felt really sad. He would help me get through it by talking to me and explaining the good about it.
My sisters are 8 and 4 years old, they are still very young, I mention them because when I was their age I went through all this separation, so now as they are growing they are going threw the kind of what I did, except our dad left for good.
Approximately 50 percent of American children will witness the breakup of a parent's marriage.
One of 10 children whose parents have divorced will also see 3 or more subsequent parental marriage breakups.
As you might expect, research has found that kids struggle the most during the first year or two after the divorce. Kids are likely to experience distress, anger, anxiety, and disbelief.
I was 7 when my parents got separated but I was able to comprehend why this happened.
At that time I didn’t get to see my dad as often as I wanted to, which made me hurt inside, however, no one knew this. As I got older I hated to be with my mom, I was 11 when I came to live in San Jose CA with her and my grandma--from my mom’s side.
So I went to school here for a while until I went back to Washington state when I was 13. I got to spend more time with my dad, once I left I felt a good relieve. My dad and I would always talk about life and I’d always want to go with him wherever he went, which was stores, friends, cousin’s house, etc.
I always wanted to have a big quinceanera, but I know we didn’t have the money for it. I told my dad if we could just have a get-together type of thing with the family. To me, as long as I was with my family that’s what truly mattered.
It would have been a good time, however,I told him I wanted a car instead of a birthday party.
He said, “We have to see because you have to get your license to be able to drive.” But then I was like, “Dad I don’t need that I want my car first, then I can get my license,” he responded back with, “No you are not getting a car till I see you have a license first,” I told him ok fine, since then I didn’t get my car.
He then surprised me when I turned 15, my family made a quince party for me with a DJ, they decorated everything blue and white. My dress was blue and simple because I didn't want anything big.
I was happy because I didn’t know anything until they took me to the place. All my family was already there, ready to scream “SURPRISE”. It’s a good memory I have with my dad to look back to, and I thanked him a lot because he knew I wanted something so he put in the effort to give me what he could.
This is the reason I appreciate him so much and I will always have him in mind. I know I don't mention my mom a lot and the reason why is because I and her have never bonded together.
For a lot of teens, it could be the same, maybe people don't bond with their dad as much as me, maybe they bond more with their mom, or even some of us don’t have both parents with us.
As January 2019 came he finally made his decision on leaving soon, we cried a lot. My sisters were really sad because we weren’t going to be able to see him no more until we had a chance in December. However, my sisters won’t be able to see him which makes me sadder because we won’t have a chance to be reunited once again.
As time went by he would tell us my grandpa and grandma were sick, so we felt really bad. They didn’t have anyone to watch over them because my aunt, which is my dad's sister, got married and moved from Mexico to Texas. They would always call us to see how we were doing.
My dad decided to leave and go to Mexico to take care of them. I have never met my family from Mexico, but this year will be my first time, and I'm excited to see them.
My dad made the official decision on March 5, 2019, he decided to leave for Mexico. We had to understand his point of view because it was for his own good to leave and watch over his parents just like he had watched over us.
But now I’ve been trying to get through all this, I call my dad every day to make sure they are doing well. We talk about how I’m doing in school and how I’m doing emotionally.
I have been doing my best in school, I keep up with my grades even though I have a lot going on in my mind. I try to maintain myself busy by doing other things, for example, I like to play volleyball or soccer during my free time.
Things like this help me in a way where I’m not just thinking about the situation. I think it's important to be doing things and being active as much as you can. Leave the bad vibes behind focus on yourself, after all at the end of the day you will appreciate what you do for yourself.