By: Jasmine sinlao
In March of this year, Jarely Cabading, a junior in Yerba Buena High School, experienced her grandpa’s death. Three weeks later, her grandma soon followed due to sickness. The recent passing of her grandparents was devastating and painful; however, in the end, she was able to grieve and accept the present.
Jarely’s grandparents, Claro and Josephina, were important in the Cabading family: “They were always helping my aunts and uncles, giving them money, making sure we live under a roof, and just the way they are to us. We really felt connected.”
Additionally, they were also very important to Jarely. “I grew up making a lot of memories with them, just the love that they’ve shown us, shown me, I always felt more loved by them, except for my parents.”
Her grandparents taught Jarely the importance of respect as well. They’ve helped her grow and develop as a person with the right knowledge of self respect and respect for others.
“Back then I really didn’t care about meeting up with family. I’d basically do my own thing, not focusing on anyone else,” Jarely pointed out.
It took around two to three months for Jarely to properly get past mourning. Thankfully, she wasn’t alone through it all. Whilst dealing with grief, she mainly had her two girl cousins to share her personal thoughts with.
“We would talk about how happy they’d be with looking down at their grandkids being together and trying to make the family whole,” she explained, “We would talk about their memories with us and like, that would make us laugh if we were sad and talk about other things.”
Out of all memories she has with her grandparents, her favorite memory was her grandpa’s 83rd birthday: “The house was filled up with all my family and it felt good to have everyone in one space.”
One factor that helped cope Jarely through this time is her nephew, Aveyon. Aveyon brings joy to her life and helps her get distracted from the grief.
“The way he runs, he wobbles and has his hands in the air… The way he just is takes my mind off of everything.”
Although there were disagreements about how to handle money, whether spending it on the funerals or by splitting it, the Cabading family managed to find light in such darkness. They realized that with such a tragedy, the importance of family is what binds everyone together.
“We realized we needed to be there for each other more often on how we’re doing,” Jarely stated. “Because these parties that we been having is a reason on why we’ve been having them, which is a way to get closer.”
Eventually, Jarely came to realize that going through the grief of her two grandparents has caused a great impact on her.
“I started to pay attention to people who are important to me and realize that any day could basically be our last.”
In March of this year, Jarely Cabading, a junior in Yerba Buena High School, experienced her grandpa’s death. Three weeks later, her grandma soon followed due to sickness. The recent passing of her grandparents was devastating and painful; however, in the end, she was able to grieve and accept the present.
Jarely’s grandparents, Claro and Josephina, were important in the Cabading family: “They were always helping my aunts and uncles, giving them money, making sure we live under a roof, and just the way they are to us. We really felt connected.”
Additionally, they were also very important to Jarely. “I grew up making a lot of memories with them, just the love that they’ve shown us, shown me, I always felt more loved by them, except for my parents.”
Her grandparents taught Jarely the importance of respect as well. They’ve helped her grow and develop as a person with the right knowledge of self respect and respect for others.
“Back then I really didn’t care about meeting up with family. I’d basically do my own thing, not focusing on anyone else,” Jarely pointed out.
It took around two to three months for Jarely to properly get past mourning. Thankfully, she wasn’t alone through it all. Whilst dealing with grief, she mainly had her two girl cousins to share her personal thoughts with.
“We would talk about how happy they’d be with looking down at their grandkids being together and trying to make the family whole,” she explained, “We would talk about their memories with us and like, that would make us laugh if we were sad and talk about other things.”
Out of all memories she has with her grandparents, her favorite memory was her grandpa’s 83rd birthday: “The house was filled up with all my family and it felt good to have everyone in one space.”
One factor that helped cope Jarely through this time is her nephew, Aveyon. Aveyon brings joy to her life and helps her get distracted from the grief.
“The way he runs, he wobbles and has his hands in the air… The way he just is takes my mind off of everything.”
Although there were disagreements about how to handle money, whether spending it on the funerals or by splitting it, the Cabading family managed to find light in such darkness. They realized that with such a tragedy, the importance of family is what binds everyone together.
“We realized we needed to be there for each other more often on how we’re doing,” Jarely stated. “Because these parties that we been having is a reason on why we’ve been having them, which is a way to get closer.”
Eventually, Jarely came to realize that going through the grief of her two grandparents has caused a great impact on her.
“I started to pay attention to people who are important to me and realize that any day could basically be our last.”