Every child yearns for the love and attention of their parents. It’s difficult to have their attention when you feel like you’re competing against your own siblings. For Berenice Nogueda, a teenager and student at Yerba Buena, it’s a life living experience.
According to Health Line, parents don’t seem to notice they have favorites which make the unfavorite child have low self-esteem. Parents don’t notice that they compare their children to others. Having favoritism can damage the family bond.
Living in a household with two other siblings is a struggle. Especially when you’re the oldest. Since she’s the oldest, she has a big responsibility. Every morning, she wakes up early and comes to my house. Her parents work early, so she goes to my house and her responsibility is to wake up her siblings and take them to school.
“Being the oldest is hard because my parents depend on me to do everything for my siblings. They have expectations of me. What sucks is that I’m the unfavorite child and my parents treat me differently from my siblings,” she said.
It happens a lot when you’re the oldest and your younger siblings get away with everything.
“Both of my parents prefer my younger siblings. What sucks is that I take the fall for everything and get blamed even if I don’t start it. My parents assume it’s me and I start problems.”
“I get upset because I know it’s not my fault. My parents don’t give me attention and I feel left out in the family,” she said.
According to the article “The Trophy Child’ and betterhelp.com, only 70% of parents actually admit they have favorites and the unfavorite child has a lot of negative emotions.
“I wouldn’t tell my parents how I feel about it because I know them. They won’t listen because they’re stubborn and they for sure won’t admit that they choose favorites. Every time I tell them off, they get mad,” Berenice said.
Being the “inferior” child can damage the person without the parents knowing it. “It affects me emotionally. I get sad and angry. I don’t get attention, but then sometimes I ignore it because I know there’s nothing I can do about it,” she said.
Parents do things without knowing how it can affect their children. Sometimes they do it for a reason they don’t want anyone to know.
“I honestly don’t know why they treat me like that. Especially my mom. My mom’s friends say it’s probably because they see my mom in me and maybe that’s why,” she said.
According to exploringyourmind.com and tvtropes.org, parents act that way with the unfavorite because either both or 1 parent see themselves in that child.
Being a child is hard, especially when you don’t have your parents’ support. It’s hard to ask them questions if you’re scared of them and if you’re not close to them.
“If I had to ask them questions, it would be why do they treat me differently, why I’m the least favorite, and why/what do they expect from me,” Berenice said.
“I honestly don’t know why they treat me differently and why they treat me bad. It’s always been like that ever since my younger siblings were born,” she said.
“I argue with my siblings most of the time and it’s always about stupid things. My parents assume it’s me even if I tell what happened. I just get treated so unfairly I get tired.”
Being fair, being supportive, and paying attention to your kids is very important for a family to stay together and to stay strong.
“I don’t tell anyone about my situation with my siblings and parents because I feel uncomfortable telling people my problems,” she adds. “Even though parents don’t show their support for me, I still love them because they’re my parents and those problems make me stronger.”
I grew up with Berenice. I know her struggles with family and I see how she gets treated. I don’t know how it feels to be the unfavorite child because my parents don’t have favorites. My parents love me and my other siblings the same.
I am not the favorite child nor the unfavorite. My parents treat me the same as my siblings. Yes, it’s normal for family and siblings to argue, but not all of them hate each other or hold a grudge. I’m grateful for my parents even though we have those bad times because, without those bad times, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am right now.
“I just want to be treated equally. Not gonna lie, I get jealous of others when I see families and siblings getting along and having what I don’t have. They have a good connection,” Berenice said.
I see how Berenice looks at my family. She looks hurt because it’s hard for her to be like that with her family. My parents, especially my mom, show me love, attention, and support me in everything. My siblings and I hardly ever argue and we have a strong bond.
Berenice and I are really close and there have been many times where I see her have arguments with her siblings and parents. I see the difference between fairness and treatment she and her siblings get. It’s tough living in a situation in which you feel like you don’t even belong in your own family.
Berenice and I live completely different lives and even though we get treated differently, we always have each other’s backs and our problems make us stronger. We go through our problems together and have each other’s support.
According to Health Line, parents don’t seem to notice they have favorites which make the unfavorite child have low self-esteem. Parents don’t notice that they compare their children to others. Having favoritism can damage the family bond.
Living in a household with two other siblings is a struggle. Especially when you’re the oldest. Since she’s the oldest, she has a big responsibility. Every morning, she wakes up early and comes to my house. Her parents work early, so she goes to my house and her responsibility is to wake up her siblings and take them to school.
“Being the oldest is hard because my parents depend on me to do everything for my siblings. They have expectations of me. What sucks is that I’m the unfavorite child and my parents treat me differently from my siblings,” she said.
It happens a lot when you’re the oldest and your younger siblings get away with everything.
“Both of my parents prefer my younger siblings. What sucks is that I take the fall for everything and get blamed even if I don’t start it. My parents assume it’s me and I start problems.”
“I get upset because I know it’s not my fault. My parents don’t give me attention and I feel left out in the family,” she said.
According to the article “The Trophy Child’ and betterhelp.com, only 70% of parents actually admit they have favorites and the unfavorite child has a lot of negative emotions.
“I wouldn’t tell my parents how I feel about it because I know them. They won’t listen because they’re stubborn and they for sure won’t admit that they choose favorites. Every time I tell them off, they get mad,” Berenice said.
Being the “inferior” child can damage the person without the parents knowing it. “It affects me emotionally. I get sad and angry. I don’t get attention, but then sometimes I ignore it because I know there’s nothing I can do about it,” she said.
Parents do things without knowing how it can affect their children. Sometimes they do it for a reason they don’t want anyone to know.
“I honestly don’t know why they treat me like that. Especially my mom. My mom’s friends say it’s probably because they see my mom in me and maybe that’s why,” she said.
According to exploringyourmind.com and tvtropes.org, parents act that way with the unfavorite because either both or 1 parent see themselves in that child.
Being a child is hard, especially when you don’t have your parents’ support. It’s hard to ask them questions if you’re scared of them and if you’re not close to them.
“If I had to ask them questions, it would be why do they treat me differently, why I’m the least favorite, and why/what do they expect from me,” Berenice said.
“I honestly don’t know why they treat me differently and why they treat me bad. It’s always been like that ever since my younger siblings were born,” she said.
“I argue with my siblings most of the time and it’s always about stupid things. My parents assume it’s me even if I tell what happened. I just get treated so unfairly I get tired.”
Being fair, being supportive, and paying attention to your kids is very important for a family to stay together and to stay strong.
“I don’t tell anyone about my situation with my siblings and parents because I feel uncomfortable telling people my problems,” she adds. “Even though parents don’t show their support for me, I still love them because they’re my parents and those problems make me stronger.”
I grew up with Berenice. I know her struggles with family and I see how she gets treated. I don’t know how it feels to be the unfavorite child because my parents don’t have favorites. My parents love me and my other siblings the same.
I am not the favorite child nor the unfavorite. My parents treat me the same as my siblings. Yes, it’s normal for family and siblings to argue, but not all of them hate each other or hold a grudge. I’m grateful for my parents even though we have those bad times because, without those bad times, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am right now.
“I just want to be treated equally. Not gonna lie, I get jealous of others when I see families and siblings getting along and having what I don’t have. They have a good connection,” Berenice said.
I see how Berenice looks at my family. She looks hurt because it’s hard for her to be like that with her family. My parents, especially my mom, show me love, attention, and support me in everything. My siblings and I hardly ever argue and we have a strong bond.
Berenice and I are really close and there have been many times where I see her have arguments with her siblings and parents. I see the difference between fairness and treatment she and her siblings get. It’s tough living in a situation in which you feel like you don’t even belong in your own family.
Berenice and I live completely different lives and even though we get treated differently, we always have each other’s backs and our problems make us stronger. We go through our problems together and have each other’s support.