By Jacqueline Sumano
Is abusing a child physically or emotionally going to make them successful in life? Do you know how a child feels? Do you know their emotions? Do you talk to them or do you just go for the hit? Many people think that a way to fix problems is using violence, violence should never be the first choice to choose mainly on a child. Not only children, but teens get emotionally hurt, which causes them to get depressed. Here is how this kind of abuse affect them.
According to the resource childhelp.org , every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States. 28.3% of adults reports being physically abused as a child and 10.6% of emotionally abused.
When Angel Sumano, father of 3, was a kid he would get abused by his dad physically. “El mi pegaba bien feo.” “He would hit me really bad,” he says, “when my dad was drunk he would just hit me for no reason, he would just hit me out of nowhere.”
He started working with his dad at the age of 6, “He would hit me when the teacher would tell him that I would fall asleep in class. I would fall asleep because I didn’t have time to sleep, I was really tired.” He would punch him and slap him. His mom tried to protect him but she would get abused too.
“My dad would stop hitting me at the age of 16 because at that time I was able to defend myself.” After all, the abuse that his father has given him, he still hasn’t forgiven him and he has lost all his love. When he got older, he would tell himself that he would love his children in many ways. He wouldn’t want his children to go through the same thing.
“I wouldn’t get depressed, just that I lost all the love I had for him. This would lead me to get into problems. I would have anger issues and I still do but I’m able to control them. I would fight with my dad a lot until I decided to move to the United States to find a job.”
Angel wanted to take his mom with him to the United States to protect her from his father, but she didn’t want to because she didn’t want leave her husband alone. She loved him even though he physically abused her.
Angel got really upset, but then he moved on until his mom died due to a liver infection back in 2016. He blames his dad because he wouldn’t take care of her and just let her die. From the year 2000 to this day, Angel hasn’t even spoken to his dad because he hates him, and he isn’t able to love him again.
According to the resource childhelp.org , every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States. 28.3% of adults reports being physically abused as a child and 10.6% of emotionally abused.
When Angel Sumano, father of 3, was a kid he would get abused by his dad physically. “El mi pegaba bien feo.” “He would hit me really bad,” he says, “when my dad was drunk he would just hit me for no reason, he would just hit me out of nowhere.”
He started working with his dad at the age of 6, “He would hit me when the teacher would tell him that I would fall asleep in class. I would fall asleep because I didn’t have time to sleep, I was really tired.” He would punch him and slap him. His mom tried to protect him but she would get abused too.
“My dad would stop hitting me at the age of 16 because at that time I was able to defend myself.” After all, the abuse that his father has given him, he still hasn’t forgiven him and he has lost all his love. When he got older, he would tell himself that he would love his children in many ways. He wouldn’t want his children to go through the same thing.
“I wouldn’t get depressed, just that I lost all the love I had for him. This would lead me to get into problems. I would have anger issues and I still do but I’m able to control them. I would fight with my dad a lot until I decided to move to the United States to find a job.”
Angel wanted to take his mom with him to the United States to protect her from his father, but she didn’t want to because she didn’t want leave her husband alone. She loved him even though he physically abused her.
Angel got really upset, but then he moved on until his mom died due to a liver infection back in 2016. He blames his dad because he wouldn’t take care of her and just let her die. From the year 2000 to this day, Angel hasn’t even spoken to his dad because he hates him, and he isn’t able to love him again.
Right now, he is very happy with his family. He shares his stories with his children the most. He gives so much love to them, he has a amazing job that helps him afford for the rent, clothes, food and other needs.
Many kids are afraid to fight back to their parents, not physically but speaking up to them. It is important to talk to a child. You have to talk to them and ask them what’s wrong, you can't just hit them or start saying bad things about them making them feel worthless causing them to get depressed.
Leaving a child with a broken heart and with their feelings hurt is something that shouldn't be done at all. If they become depressed, then soon they can think that the only way they can get away from it is to commit suicide.
Show love; if you abuse, you will just cause the child to hate you. Give all the love, talk to them, don't go for the hit because that isn't going to help at all. You're just going to make it worse. A way to show love is to tell them you love them, spend time with them, communicate with them, be their best friends. Don’t let them be alone. If a child makes you mad, discuss with them.
Many kids are afraid to fight back to their parents, not physically but speaking up to them. It is important to talk to a child. You have to talk to them and ask them what’s wrong, you can't just hit them or start saying bad things about them making them feel worthless causing them to get depressed.
Leaving a child with a broken heart and with their feelings hurt is something that shouldn't be done at all. If they become depressed, then soon they can think that the only way they can get away from it is to commit suicide.
Show love; if you abuse, you will just cause the child to hate you. Give all the love, talk to them, don't go for the hit because that isn't going to help at all. You're just going to make it worse. A way to show love is to tell them you love them, spend time with them, communicate with them, be their best friends. Don’t let them be alone. If a child makes you mad, discuss with them.