By Diana Cardenas
We often assume that friends are going to last forever; the laughs, the memories, and the trust. But all that can be gone in a blink of an eye. Losing a close friend(s) can have different effects on people depending on how the friendship(s) ended. Some people may feel saddened, furious, envy, guilt, and even relieved. Friendships can end in a variety of ways: having a disagreement, listening to drama, one of you enters a relationship, being deceived, etc.
According to an article by “Psychology Today”, Hara Marano says a loss in friendship(s) can cause depression in some people’s lives. When our need for social relationships are not met, we fall apart mentally and even physically.
I’ve personally have dealt with losing friends and had to deal with the feeling of loneliness, I struggled to make friends and when I do have friends I always think they are going to leave me because my friendships tend to be like a TV show, people slowly start losing interest in it. As my friends slowly drift away my happiness drifts with them. I started to dissociate myself with everyone I knew because of how many times I would doubt my social skills.
According to a friend of mine, Jorge, he copes by blaming himself for everything, even if he wasn’t in the wrong. “I sometimes think it’s my fault because of the things that I do and how I act.”
Being in an argument is no fun because you’re either the one in an argument or in between an argument. Having your trust broken by people you thought cared about you is never a great feeling.
According to my friend Kathleen, the best coping mechanism that worked for her is listening to music while thinking about all the bad times the person put her through.“I like to listen to music and think about the bad times we had.”
Happiness is another emotion people experience when they lose friendships. Getting out of a toxic, lying, backstabbing friendship can be a good thing to some people. It’s time consuming to have a toxic friendship because you’re the one putting most the effort in the friendship while they are worrying about something else other than you.
Making friends is a difficult thing to do for some people. People are too judgmental nowadays which makes making friends so much more difficult than it should be. Not only are people judgmental, but people have different interests. Unless you have friendships like me, where I get friends who are the complete opposite from me or have somethings in common. Putting yourself out there and doing things you usually wouldn’t see yourself doing can help you meet new people.
Friends are like clouds, they might be there for you during your “cloudy” days, but not in your sunny days. Although friends come and go, it is important to be friends with yourself.
We often assume that friends are going to last forever; the laughs, the memories, and the trust. But all that can be gone in a blink of an eye. Losing a close friend(s) can have different effects on people depending on how the friendship(s) ended. Some people may feel saddened, furious, envy, guilt, and even relieved. Friendships can end in a variety of ways: having a disagreement, listening to drama, one of you enters a relationship, being deceived, etc.
According to an article by “Psychology Today”, Hara Marano says a loss in friendship(s) can cause depression in some people’s lives. When our need for social relationships are not met, we fall apart mentally and even physically.
I’ve personally have dealt with losing friends and had to deal with the feeling of loneliness, I struggled to make friends and when I do have friends I always think they are going to leave me because my friendships tend to be like a TV show, people slowly start losing interest in it. As my friends slowly drift away my happiness drifts with them. I started to dissociate myself with everyone I knew because of how many times I would doubt my social skills.
According to a friend of mine, Jorge, he copes by blaming himself for everything, even if he wasn’t in the wrong. “I sometimes think it’s my fault because of the things that I do and how I act.”
Being in an argument is no fun because you’re either the one in an argument or in between an argument. Having your trust broken by people you thought cared about you is never a great feeling.
According to my friend Kathleen, the best coping mechanism that worked for her is listening to music while thinking about all the bad times the person put her through.“I like to listen to music and think about the bad times we had.”
Happiness is another emotion people experience when they lose friendships. Getting out of a toxic, lying, backstabbing friendship can be a good thing to some people. It’s time consuming to have a toxic friendship because you’re the one putting most the effort in the friendship while they are worrying about something else other than you.
Making friends is a difficult thing to do for some people. People are too judgmental nowadays which makes making friends so much more difficult than it should be. Not only are people judgmental, but people have different interests. Unless you have friendships like me, where I get friends who are the complete opposite from me or have somethings in common. Putting yourself out there and doing things you usually wouldn’t see yourself doing can help you meet new people.
Friends are like clouds, they might be there for you during your “cloudy” days, but not in your sunny days. Although friends come and go, it is important to be friends with yourself.