By Darcy Dao
It all started when I was two years old. My mom and dad were getting divorced, and I would’ve never known this happened until my brother Randy told me when I was older.
Growing up without a mother hasn’t been easy for me. My father and mother divorced back in 2004. It impacted me in so many ways because my father didn’t give me the motivation to do better in school, not giving me the support I needed, and I felt left out because I didn’t know what it was like to grow up having a mother figure.
My dad wouldn’t let me stay after school to get help for my classes. He didn’t let me have my freedom, such as he wouldn’t let me hangout with my friends because I had to obey my dad’s restrictions.
For example, he would let me go out and eat with my mom but I would have to be home before 9:00pm. Without a mother figure, I feel like I missed out on having someone to take care of me, show me love, take me to places where I wanted to go, and try harder in school.
Children who grow up with divorced parents can suffer from many emotional issues.
Children who grow up with divorced parents often experience sadness, not feeling a mother’s or father’s love in their life, feeling lonely, and having no one to guide them, according to verywellfamily.com. Having divorced parents also significantly increases the risk for children to have major life challenges like not having good grades, not feeling loved, and anxiety. Divorce introduces a massive change into the life of a child no matter what age.
It wasn’t until 2014 that I got to see my mother. My siblings and I asked my dad if we can go out to eat at a restaurant with my mom. At that moment I felt nervous and excited because he said yes. I didn’t know who my mom was. When we got to the restaurant, I didn’t recognize my mom since I didn’t know who she was after not seeing her for 10 years. Without my mother figure, it was a sad experience since I had to learn how to be independent but with her reentering my life, I felt better.
Once I saw her, it was a exciting time for me. I felt happier and better now that I finally had a mother figure in my life.
Since seeing my mom in 2014, I currently have both of my parents in my life to take of me, and it’s pleasant to have them both in my life, to take care of me when needed. However, they don’t get along as much.
Now that I have my mother in my life, it has made me feel happier because she takes me out to hangout with friends, buy me food, drives me to school, and buys me clothes. She also motivates me to do better in school, take me to get my nails done, and gives me money for things I need.
Even though my mother is in my life now, we don’t have as deep of a connection as other people might who grow up with their mother. When my mom tells me to do something such as eat more, sometimes I don’t listen to her. We mainly have small talk, the bond between us isn’t as strong as it could be.
My mom is someone who I love deeply, but I just don’t tell her or show it to her that much. For example, when my mom does a favor for me, I just tell her “thank you” in a very casual way. I don’t say “thank you, love you mom” a lot to her.
I feel like this way because I didn’t know her that well for so long. My mom works two jobs. She is a very hardworking woman who loves her kids, and even though she is very busy, she still manages to find time for her kids.
I asked my mom, “What is the hardest thing about taking care of your kids?”
She replied ”The hardest thing of take care my kid is they don’t listen to mom sometime, they don’t drink milk, and they always on their own way, they need to eat more to get energy and when they have energy they get smarter and make their life a little easier”
One of my favorite memories with my mom is when we went to Tomi Buffet. My mom picked me up at my house in her white toyota. We sat down, grabbed our plates, then walked around to see what kind of food we wanted to eat. Some of what I had were noodles, salad, fried shrimp, sushi, and fruits. The food tasted delicious. Most of the food were sweet and really good. This is my favorite memory because it is a time where my mom and I spent time together on my birthday like 3 years ago, and we had fun.
A place I like to go eat with my mom is restaurants, such as Tomi buffet and Pho 90, we just sat down ate and talked about random things such as the food we like to eat here, like what is good to eat here. When I get to my mom’s business, I just sit in the cashier while my mom sells. I normally sit down and chat with her, but sometimes I try to help her if possible. I try to spend time with my mom as much as possible because I don’t see her as often as I am busy with school and my mom is busy as well.
My mom’s favorite memory is, “They are still healthy, like they are small and they are a little bit skinny, they keep smiling when I see them it’s surprise me, and they still look the same, only get taller.”
My mom has taught me important life lessons such as being nice to people, taking care of myself, and not being late to school too much. She was the one who wanted me to succeed, try harder in school, and have a good life and future. My mom even got me an afterschool tutor since I was struggling in math. She taught me to never give up and that's what I love about her.
It all started when I was two years old. My mom and dad were getting divorced, and I would’ve never known this happened until my brother Randy told me when I was older.
Growing up without a mother hasn’t been easy for me. My father and mother divorced back in 2004. It impacted me in so many ways because my father didn’t give me the motivation to do better in school, not giving me the support I needed, and I felt left out because I didn’t know what it was like to grow up having a mother figure.
My dad wouldn’t let me stay after school to get help for my classes. He didn’t let me have my freedom, such as he wouldn’t let me hangout with my friends because I had to obey my dad’s restrictions.
For example, he would let me go out and eat with my mom but I would have to be home before 9:00pm. Without a mother figure, I feel like I missed out on having someone to take care of me, show me love, take me to places where I wanted to go, and try harder in school.
Children who grow up with divorced parents can suffer from many emotional issues.
Children who grow up with divorced parents often experience sadness, not feeling a mother’s or father’s love in their life, feeling lonely, and having no one to guide them, according to verywellfamily.com. Having divorced parents also significantly increases the risk for children to have major life challenges like not having good grades, not feeling loved, and anxiety. Divorce introduces a massive change into the life of a child no matter what age.
It wasn’t until 2014 that I got to see my mother. My siblings and I asked my dad if we can go out to eat at a restaurant with my mom. At that moment I felt nervous and excited because he said yes. I didn’t know who my mom was. When we got to the restaurant, I didn’t recognize my mom since I didn’t know who she was after not seeing her for 10 years. Without my mother figure, it was a sad experience since I had to learn how to be independent but with her reentering my life, I felt better.
Once I saw her, it was a exciting time for me. I felt happier and better now that I finally had a mother figure in my life.
Since seeing my mom in 2014, I currently have both of my parents in my life to take of me, and it’s pleasant to have them both in my life, to take care of me when needed. However, they don’t get along as much.
Now that I have my mother in my life, it has made me feel happier because she takes me out to hangout with friends, buy me food, drives me to school, and buys me clothes. She also motivates me to do better in school, take me to get my nails done, and gives me money for things I need.
Even though my mother is in my life now, we don’t have as deep of a connection as other people might who grow up with their mother. When my mom tells me to do something such as eat more, sometimes I don’t listen to her. We mainly have small talk, the bond between us isn’t as strong as it could be.
My mom is someone who I love deeply, but I just don’t tell her or show it to her that much. For example, when my mom does a favor for me, I just tell her “thank you” in a very casual way. I don’t say “thank you, love you mom” a lot to her.
I feel like this way because I didn’t know her that well for so long. My mom works two jobs. She is a very hardworking woman who loves her kids, and even though she is very busy, she still manages to find time for her kids.
I asked my mom, “What is the hardest thing about taking care of your kids?”
She replied ”The hardest thing of take care my kid is they don’t listen to mom sometime, they don’t drink milk, and they always on their own way, they need to eat more to get energy and when they have energy they get smarter and make their life a little easier”
One of my favorite memories with my mom is when we went to Tomi Buffet. My mom picked me up at my house in her white toyota. We sat down, grabbed our plates, then walked around to see what kind of food we wanted to eat. Some of what I had were noodles, salad, fried shrimp, sushi, and fruits. The food tasted delicious. Most of the food were sweet and really good. This is my favorite memory because it is a time where my mom and I spent time together on my birthday like 3 years ago, and we had fun.
A place I like to go eat with my mom is restaurants, such as Tomi buffet and Pho 90, we just sat down ate and talked about random things such as the food we like to eat here, like what is good to eat here. When I get to my mom’s business, I just sit in the cashier while my mom sells. I normally sit down and chat with her, but sometimes I try to help her if possible. I try to spend time with my mom as much as possible because I don’t see her as often as I am busy with school and my mom is busy as well.
My mom’s favorite memory is, “They are still healthy, like they are small and they are a little bit skinny, they keep smiling when I see them it’s surprise me, and they still look the same, only get taller.”
My mom has taught me important life lessons such as being nice to people, taking care of myself, and not being late to school too much. She was the one who wanted me to succeed, try harder in school, and have a good life and future. My mom even got me an afterschool tutor since I was struggling in math. She taught me to never give up and that's what I love about her.