By: Ashley Michua
People tend to share everything with their closest friends including their dreams, secrets, and insecurities. But sometimes we lose friends which can be for good reasons.
Eighth grade was the year I started to gain friends who actually made me happy.
One of the situations that end a friendship occurs when a friend chooses to take a different path in life or when they move away, and that's exactly what happened in my life. I believe seventh grade was the year I started connecting with someone who I thought was different. He was like my first guy best friend. I found him really cool and sarcastic, which at first, I didn't get.
Fast forward to 2015, we started hanging with my other friends, we'd go to the mall and watch movies, go to the liquor store to buy snacks, and even go to the arcade.
Let me introduce him to you. We’ll call him V. He introduced me to new types of music, stuff I wouldn’t normally listen to. V took me out of my comfort zone. We used to do crazy things like run down the road or even do some dumb dares like eat a spoonful of chile.
We had a good friendship for about four-ish years. Our bond was weird since he just really liked insulting some things that I liked such as music bands and hair styles. But now that I look back at it, I agree with him because we all have a phase.
But I felt that our late night conversations led to complications. As we moved into high school, classmates kept coming up to me and telling me that he’s not a good person to hangout with. But honestly I never trusted them since he was someone I loved and felt connected with.
At first I didn’t realize the nature of our relationship until he decided to date some girl. We lost connection because she didn't want him to hang out with anyone expect for her. I felt like she hated me for some reason but I honestly didn’t care because I didn’t want to ruin his happiness.
People who hate you right away are way too jealous and insecure.
Eric a teen who studied at Yerba buena High School talks about how you create a feeling of insecurity with the intention of hurting you. Many kids in school want to feel part of a group, sometimes the popular kids. I asked my friend Estefania if she would leave her friends for popularity or anything like that and she said, “No because they keep me stable and make me feel worth more than anything...Friendship is better than anything else if you’ve known them since second grade.”
I decided to ask Estefania why some friendships don't last and she said, “Well, we don’t know any better. It’s full of drama and you don’t know who your real friends are until you seperate or go into high school.” Some of us grow out of friendships because we develop different interests or hobbies as we get older.
Seth Meyers from Psychologytoday.com says that: we’re young when we made those friends and know we have different thoughts, likes and styles. We grow apart.
Me and V were thirteen when we decided to be friends. Now we’re seventeen and know what real friends are. We learned that some friendships are meant to last if you and that person have time for each other and balance each other. There were days when I felt us drifting apart. My eyes closed and all I saw were good times disappearing with him. But friends are keepers when you stay together you mature and work out everything and that's what keeps you close. For me I didn't lose a friend in elementary school since my group was very small. Yes some of my friends fought but we worked it out. Some hated each other but they still tried to work it out for me.
Alice Gomstyn from Babble.com says that 10 percent of friendships that started in seventh grade are intact by the spring of senior year. I could say this is true but many don’t even make it to senior year since we all have different paths and dreams. Yes. Some of us go to the same high school but as we are about to finish high school, we might not feel like we can stay and lose our happiness with each other.
To me losing someone or some people will be worth it because you get better friends who are truly there for you and appreciate you no matter what.
But to the ones I lost: Thank you for everything. I wish nothing but for you to be living the best life and have friends who appreciate you just like mine. I will never regret having them as friends since they all taught me something in life. V taught me to grow and learn with him. Thank you for making fourteen year old me happy and comfortable.
People tend to share everything with their closest friends including their dreams, secrets, and insecurities. But sometimes we lose friends which can be for good reasons.
Eighth grade was the year I started to gain friends who actually made me happy.
One of the situations that end a friendship occurs when a friend chooses to take a different path in life or when they move away, and that's exactly what happened in my life. I believe seventh grade was the year I started connecting with someone who I thought was different. He was like my first guy best friend. I found him really cool and sarcastic, which at first, I didn't get.
Fast forward to 2015, we started hanging with my other friends, we'd go to the mall and watch movies, go to the liquor store to buy snacks, and even go to the arcade.
Let me introduce him to you. We’ll call him V. He introduced me to new types of music, stuff I wouldn’t normally listen to. V took me out of my comfort zone. We used to do crazy things like run down the road or even do some dumb dares like eat a spoonful of chile.
We had a good friendship for about four-ish years. Our bond was weird since he just really liked insulting some things that I liked such as music bands and hair styles. But now that I look back at it, I agree with him because we all have a phase.
But I felt that our late night conversations led to complications. As we moved into high school, classmates kept coming up to me and telling me that he’s not a good person to hangout with. But honestly I never trusted them since he was someone I loved and felt connected with.
At first I didn’t realize the nature of our relationship until he decided to date some girl. We lost connection because she didn't want him to hang out with anyone expect for her. I felt like she hated me for some reason but I honestly didn’t care because I didn’t want to ruin his happiness.
People who hate you right away are way too jealous and insecure.
Eric a teen who studied at Yerba buena High School talks about how you create a feeling of insecurity with the intention of hurting you. Many kids in school want to feel part of a group, sometimes the popular kids. I asked my friend Estefania if she would leave her friends for popularity or anything like that and she said, “No because they keep me stable and make me feel worth more than anything...Friendship is better than anything else if you’ve known them since second grade.”
I decided to ask Estefania why some friendships don't last and she said, “Well, we don’t know any better. It’s full of drama and you don’t know who your real friends are until you seperate or go into high school.” Some of us grow out of friendships because we develop different interests or hobbies as we get older.
Seth Meyers from Psychologytoday.com says that: we’re young when we made those friends and know we have different thoughts, likes and styles. We grow apart.
Me and V were thirteen when we decided to be friends. Now we’re seventeen and know what real friends are. We learned that some friendships are meant to last if you and that person have time for each other and balance each other. There were days when I felt us drifting apart. My eyes closed and all I saw were good times disappearing with him. But friends are keepers when you stay together you mature and work out everything and that's what keeps you close. For me I didn't lose a friend in elementary school since my group was very small. Yes some of my friends fought but we worked it out. Some hated each other but they still tried to work it out for me.
Alice Gomstyn from Babble.com says that 10 percent of friendships that started in seventh grade are intact by the spring of senior year. I could say this is true but many don’t even make it to senior year since we all have different paths and dreams. Yes. Some of us go to the same high school but as we are about to finish high school, we might not feel like we can stay and lose our happiness with each other.
To me losing someone or some people will be worth it because you get better friends who are truly there for you and appreciate you no matter what.
But to the ones I lost: Thank you for everything. I wish nothing but for you to be living the best life and have friends who appreciate you just like mine. I will never regret having them as friends since they all taught me something in life. V taught me to grow and learn with him. Thank you for making fourteen year old me happy and comfortable.