By Gianna Campos
When I found out that he had been lying to me for four months, I didn’t know how to react. I think my first initial reaction was shock. Then I started to think it was my fault, and maybe it was. But, either way, I felt betrayed.
It wasn’t always bad though. It felt perfect for a long time. A lot of people at school, even my family, thought we would end up as something like highschool sweethearts. Everyone knew we were dating and everyone would say they thought how cute it was that we were so happy together. But as luck would have it, we didn’t become highschool sweethearts, and we weren’t always so happy together.
It was the beginning of the second semester of our freshman year when we were your typical high school students in a relationship. We were always happy and hugging and “in love.”
We really got to know each other and our little ticks. He used to tell me all the time that I was stubborn and I used to to tell him how I didn’t like when he would apologize for silly things. Then, there would be little arguments here and there, but they were stupid and we got over them. Time went by and we wouldn’t get over arguments as easily. I know this was true because I knew there was something he wasn’t telling me. I had a gut feeling for the longest time, but I chose to ignore it.
Then to make more problems for our relationship, I made a mistake down the road and maybe that was what triggered the lying to me. That’s what I thought for a long time, anyway.
As time went by and I would bring up the fact that I knew he wasn’t telling me something, he would always say the same things: “Why would I lie to you? I don’t know why you think that, there’s nothing I’m hiding from you,” and I would drop it. I continued to bring that topic up pretty frequently.
It got to a point where I couldn’t keep hearing the same thing over and over again, so I brought up the idea of just taking a break from one another. I remember that happened on a Friday.
So, we went the weekend without really talking. The Monday back to school, we still did not talk. But my friend brought up that she seen something on social media on Friday that he was out with a few people. I wasn’t aware about it because he had told me he was at recovery, an afterschool program to make up credits. So after hearing this, it just confirmed the fact of him lying. I ended things with him that same day.
It wasn’t really even an official “break-up” because we did continue to talk. Even after finding out about his lying, it was hard for me to let go of him because of how much time I had spent with him. That was my fault, I stayed in a toxic relationship for too long, and even after it was over, I still stayed. I didn’t realize how unhealthy it was for me.
The lesson to be learned here is this: if you are in a relationship and you have a gut feeling about something, do not ignore it. A gut feeling about anything should not be ignored. Get yourself out of toxic situations, and care about yourself enough to not stick with someone who isn’t good for you.
I’m now doing better, I’ve made progress and fixed myself into a better person than who I was before the relationship. I feel I’ve become smarter because of this heartbreak. No matter the things he put me through, I will forever be grateful for all that he did for me and the things he taught me.
It wasn’t always bad though. It felt perfect for a long time. A lot of people at school, even my family, thought we would end up as something like highschool sweethearts. Everyone knew we were dating and everyone would say they thought how cute it was that we were so happy together. But as luck would have it, we didn’t become highschool sweethearts, and we weren’t always so happy together.
It was the beginning of the second semester of our freshman year when we were your typical high school students in a relationship. We were always happy and hugging and “in love.”
We really got to know each other and our little ticks. He used to tell me all the time that I was stubborn and I used to to tell him how I didn’t like when he would apologize for silly things. Then, there would be little arguments here and there, but they were stupid and we got over them. Time went by and we wouldn’t get over arguments as easily. I know this was true because I knew there was something he wasn’t telling me. I had a gut feeling for the longest time, but I chose to ignore it.
Then to make more problems for our relationship, I made a mistake down the road and maybe that was what triggered the lying to me. That’s what I thought for a long time, anyway.
As time went by and I would bring up the fact that I knew he wasn’t telling me something, he would always say the same things: “Why would I lie to you? I don’t know why you think that, there’s nothing I’m hiding from you,” and I would drop it. I continued to bring that topic up pretty frequently.
It got to a point where I couldn’t keep hearing the same thing over and over again, so I brought up the idea of just taking a break from one another. I remember that happened on a Friday.
So, we went the weekend without really talking. The Monday back to school, we still did not talk. But my friend brought up that she seen something on social media on Friday that he was out with a few people. I wasn’t aware about it because he had told me he was at recovery, an afterschool program to make up credits. So after hearing this, it just confirmed the fact of him lying. I ended things with him that same day.
It wasn’t really even an official “break-up” because we did continue to talk. Even after finding out about his lying, it was hard for me to let go of him because of how much time I had spent with him. That was my fault, I stayed in a toxic relationship for too long, and even after it was over, I still stayed. I didn’t realize how unhealthy it was for me.
The lesson to be learned here is this: if you are in a relationship and you have a gut feeling about something, do not ignore it. A gut feeling about anything should not be ignored. Get yourself out of toxic situations, and care about yourself enough to not stick with someone who isn’t good for you.
I’m now doing better, I’ve made progress and fixed myself into a better person than who I was before the relationship. I feel I’ve become smarter because of this heartbreak. No matter the things he put me through, I will forever be grateful for all that he did for me and the things he taught me.