By Marlene Briseno
It was three years after when I was ready to speak to her again. It was the hot summer of June when my dad received a message from my sister with her phone number, in case I wanted to contact her, and I finally decided it was time I did. As the months went by, I would start to express myself more and just talk about what was going on in each other’s lives. Being closer to her made me gain more trust and increase the friendship we had with one another.
It was a fresh evening as I walked out of my dad’s house and towards the parked red car.. My sister came out of the car to receive me with a welcoming hug, then my older brother followed. During the drive to the coffee place, I started to make funny jokes, and even though my nine-year-old nephew was quiet, I tried to talk to him as well.
The temperature changed once we entered the coffee shop. I noticed right away customers sitting in tables and talking and occasionally laughing with one another. As we were ordering, I smelled the scent of homemade cookies and coffee, but decided to go for an espresso. As we were sitting in a dark brown booth waiting for our order, my sister asked,”So, what’s new in your life?” From there we started chatting more as I took sips of the warm, small white mug with a strong cinnamon aftertaste in it, which I regretted to ordering.
Seeing two of my siblings again made me feel happy because I was able to spend some time with them and catch up with their lives. I’m glad I reached out to my sister because ever since we were younger, I’ve always spend more time with her. She lost some of her teenage years because instead of going out to hang out with her friends, she had to stay home and take care of me when it wasn’t her responsibility to. I can’t imagine being in highschool and keeping up with all the work and having the role as a parent as well.
I would have wished there had been more open conversations, or that we would have at least visited each other. I wanted her to be there for me when I needed advice since she already went through what I am going through right now. What’s better than to having a sibling by your side whenever you have questions or someone to talk to when you’re not having a good day.
Not seeing any of my family members made me feel really apart from them to the point where I didn’t know them at all anymore. As I was recently talking to my sister about this topic, she explained what her thoughts were at that time.
“I would sometimes get nightmares that something bad was happening to you. Whenever I tried to contact you, your dad would say that you were at school or at a friends house,” my sister says.
“In my mind, I thought he was trying to keep you from me because he hates my mom and he hates me. It should have been between them but it wasn’t,” she said.
Dwelling on the past was difficult for both of us because we both had different perspectives and I, myself, had many questions. I don’t know if my dad, my mom or my sister are saying the truth, but I respect their point of views regardless. I can’t judge anybody since I was small and didn’t know what was exactly going on between them all.
According to the website https://www.bustle.com/, “Age differences means a lot when it comes to sibling a relationship.” The closer of age you are with your sibling, the more closer you will be than if you are farther apart in age. For instance, my sister and I are 11 years apart from each other. When I was four, she was already in high school. She couldn't tell me her problems or issues because I wouldn’t understand. At my age, I wanted to watch cartoons and play with barbies, meanwhile she wanted to go out to the mall and go on dates with her boyfriend.
The website www.powerofpositvity.com states, “Teenagers are discovering who they are as a separate person from their siblings and parents and this is why these years are usually the ones when siblings tend to grow apart.” When my sister use to take care of me, she was usually not in a good mood since she had to invite her friends or boyfriend over to the house in order for them to hang out since she wasn’t able to go out. As a small child, I would describe her as a moody sister who would yell at me for every little thing I did wrong.
According to the website https://youqueen.com/, “Numerous studies show that the relationship with our siblings not only determines how we relate to the world and the choices we make, but has a significant impact on our health and well being too.” Now that I am speaking with my sister again, I tend to talk to her about concerns and issues that I am experiencing , and it feels good to get it off of your chest with someone you can trust and relate with.
At the moment, we continue to build our friendship and live in the present. I am not one to have resentment with people, so reconnecting a bond with my sister makes me feel like a better person. Just as I am seeing my sister, I know there will be a day where I will have to face my mom. I don’t know exactly when, but I have a feeling it will be soon. There are situations when relationships with another person can hurt you emotionally to the point where it can be difficult and take some time to want to see them again.
It was a fresh evening as I walked out of my dad’s house and towards the parked red car.. My sister came out of the car to receive me with a welcoming hug, then my older brother followed. During the drive to the coffee place, I started to make funny jokes, and even though my nine-year-old nephew was quiet, I tried to talk to him as well.
The temperature changed once we entered the coffee shop. I noticed right away customers sitting in tables and talking and occasionally laughing with one another. As we were ordering, I smelled the scent of homemade cookies and coffee, but decided to go for an espresso. As we were sitting in a dark brown booth waiting for our order, my sister asked,”So, what’s new in your life?” From there we started chatting more as I took sips of the warm, small white mug with a strong cinnamon aftertaste in it, which I regretted to ordering.
Seeing two of my siblings again made me feel happy because I was able to spend some time with them and catch up with their lives. I’m glad I reached out to my sister because ever since we were younger, I’ve always spend more time with her. She lost some of her teenage years because instead of going out to hang out with her friends, she had to stay home and take care of me when it wasn’t her responsibility to. I can’t imagine being in highschool and keeping up with all the work and having the role as a parent as well.
I would have wished there had been more open conversations, or that we would have at least visited each other. I wanted her to be there for me when I needed advice since she already went through what I am going through right now. What’s better than to having a sibling by your side whenever you have questions or someone to talk to when you’re not having a good day.
Not seeing any of my family members made me feel really apart from them to the point where I didn’t know them at all anymore. As I was recently talking to my sister about this topic, she explained what her thoughts were at that time.
“I would sometimes get nightmares that something bad was happening to you. Whenever I tried to contact you, your dad would say that you were at school or at a friends house,” my sister says.
“In my mind, I thought he was trying to keep you from me because he hates my mom and he hates me. It should have been between them but it wasn’t,” she said.
Dwelling on the past was difficult for both of us because we both had different perspectives and I, myself, had many questions. I don’t know if my dad, my mom or my sister are saying the truth, but I respect their point of views regardless. I can’t judge anybody since I was small and didn’t know what was exactly going on between them all.
According to the website https://www.bustle.com/, “Age differences means a lot when it comes to sibling a relationship.” The closer of age you are with your sibling, the more closer you will be than if you are farther apart in age. For instance, my sister and I are 11 years apart from each other. When I was four, she was already in high school. She couldn't tell me her problems or issues because I wouldn’t understand. At my age, I wanted to watch cartoons and play with barbies, meanwhile she wanted to go out to the mall and go on dates with her boyfriend.
The website www.powerofpositvity.com states, “Teenagers are discovering who they are as a separate person from their siblings and parents and this is why these years are usually the ones when siblings tend to grow apart.” When my sister use to take care of me, she was usually not in a good mood since she had to invite her friends or boyfriend over to the house in order for them to hang out since she wasn’t able to go out. As a small child, I would describe her as a moody sister who would yell at me for every little thing I did wrong.
According to the website https://youqueen.com/, “Numerous studies show that the relationship with our siblings not only determines how we relate to the world and the choices we make, but has a significant impact on our health and well being too.” Now that I am speaking with my sister again, I tend to talk to her about concerns and issues that I am experiencing , and it feels good to get it off of your chest with someone you can trust and relate with.
At the moment, we continue to build our friendship and live in the present. I am not one to have resentment with people, so reconnecting a bond with my sister makes me feel like a better person. Just as I am seeing my sister, I know there will be a day where I will have to face my mom. I don’t know exactly when, but I have a feeling it will be soon. There are situations when relationships with another person can hurt you emotionally to the point where it can be difficult and take some time to want to see them again.