by Randy Dao
There are many friends who you meet throughout your high school years. Many of those people are those you’ve met in classes and others whom you’ve met and known for years, but are those hundreds of classmates you met from the past really your friends? Do you know each other’s name because of a class or from another friend? Are these “friends” that you “know” actually your friends or just people who you’ve met before? What is a “real” friend?
Throughout high school, you should be aware of your surroundings and the people you spend time with. There are always going to be people in your life you will call friends, but may distance themselves from you later on in life. We often say we have lots of friends, but in reality many of those friends won’t be the ones there for you, when you need them the most.
I have in the past encountered “fake friends” before where we distanced each other due to trust issues, and it wasn’t a pleasant feeling having them deceive me in the very end and start rumors and lies about my close friends and me. The thought of thinking they had your back, and then after the next day, act like you both never knew each other. It’s a bitter feeling when you both walk by each other, or give eye contact, knowing the real facts and the truths behind each other, and seeing an invisible face that you try to ignore.
Real friends are the ones who keep you company. They’re the people who want to spend their own time with you whether that's outside school or during school hours. Real friends don’t become close to you immediately because there always has to be a close connection by gaining each other’s trust first. They are the ones you usually refer to as “close friends.” Most of us have “close friends,” including myself.
Someone who I have become close friends with since my sophomore year is Daris Duong, a Yerba Buena High School senior. Daris has been my closest friend since our early years in this school, and we have kept a strong relationship ever since. We have both helped each other deal with our relationship problems in the past, and it really helps to have someone I trust and is close to me to be there whenever I am feeling down. Without him, I wouldn’t really be the person I am today.
Daris and I started off knowing each other due to my past relationship. We didn’t really talk much because we didn’t know each other all too well. But what helped us become close was that he would always lend a helping hand whenever I had family problems or was dealing with a lot of stress because of school. He was the one that was by my side ever since, and I am always by his side. That’s how we started becoming close and gaining trust, as both of us depend on each other to be supportive friends to strengthen and sustain our relationship.
And that’s what real friends are meant for—taking good care of their relationship with the ones that mean the most to them. In our lives, we should realize that not everyone is willing to be there for you. We should always be careful of those we choose to be close with because they could always stab you in the back and use the personal information you tell them against you. They can start rumors or lies about you to ruin your public reputation.
Instead, we should try to make good friends with people you know you can rely on and trust, because friendship is about the personal connections you make with other people. Friends may fight and argue but it's more about how we can overcome those obstacles as individuals and recognize that nothing can break the bond you have created.
For Warrior Times, I’m Randy Dao.
Throughout high school, you should be aware of your surroundings and the people you spend time with. There are always going to be people in your life you will call friends, but may distance themselves from you later on in life. We often say we have lots of friends, but in reality many of those friends won’t be the ones there for you, when you need them the most.
I have in the past encountered “fake friends” before where we distanced each other due to trust issues, and it wasn’t a pleasant feeling having them deceive me in the very end and start rumors and lies about my close friends and me. The thought of thinking they had your back, and then after the next day, act like you both never knew each other. It’s a bitter feeling when you both walk by each other, or give eye contact, knowing the real facts and the truths behind each other, and seeing an invisible face that you try to ignore.
Real friends are the ones who keep you company. They’re the people who want to spend their own time with you whether that's outside school or during school hours. Real friends don’t become close to you immediately because there always has to be a close connection by gaining each other’s trust first. They are the ones you usually refer to as “close friends.” Most of us have “close friends,” including myself.
Someone who I have become close friends with since my sophomore year is Daris Duong, a Yerba Buena High School senior. Daris has been my closest friend since our early years in this school, and we have kept a strong relationship ever since. We have both helped each other deal with our relationship problems in the past, and it really helps to have someone I trust and is close to me to be there whenever I am feeling down. Without him, I wouldn’t really be the person I am today.
Daris and I started off knowing each other due to my past relationship. We didn’t really talk much because we didn’t know each other all too well. But what helped us become close was that he would always lend a helping hand whenever I had family problems or was dealing with a lot of stress because of school. He was the one that was by my side ever since, and I am always by his side. That’s how we started becoming close and gaining trust, as both of us depend on each other to be supportive friends to strengthen and sustain our relationship.
And that’s what real friends are meant for—taking good care of their relationship with the ones that mean the most to them. In our lives, we should realize that not everyone is willing to be there for you. We should always be careful of those we choose to be close with because they could always stab you in the back and use the personal information you tell them against you. They can start rumors or lies about you to ruin your public reputation.
Instead, we should try to make good friends with people you know you can rely on and trust, because friendship is about the personal connections you make with other people. Friends may fight and argue but it's more about how we can overcome those obstacles as individuals and recognize that nothing can break the bond you have created.
For Warrior Times, I’m Randy Dao.